What do you do after experiencing a “hard day”? The type of day where tough feelings of anxiety, fear, and overwhelming frustration set in when the day doesn’t go as planned… perhaps the kids aren’t listening, the dog got into the garbage, or you had an argument with your spouse. If you’re not checking in and de-stressing after an overwhelming and hard day, then you’re missing an opportunity to reset, learn from your experiences, and prepare for better days ahead. You may not be able to control the actions of the people or the series of events that happen throughout your day, but you can control your response to these things by taking intentional time to process your emotions and identify ways to improve your responses in the future. Today on the blog & video episode below, I am going to share 3 tips to check-in & de-stress after a hard day that will allow you to decompress & prepare for better days ahead.
3 Steps to Check-In & De-Stress After A Hard Day
Stressful days are going to happen - that’s simply a part of life. We may not be able to control everything that happens in our day but we can control how to choose to process, learn from, and then grow into a better version of ourselves after experiencing hard days.
STEP #1 Realize Overwhelming Thoughts & Emotions Will Always Be There
Hard days are unavoidable, as are the overwhelming thoughts & emotions that accompany them. Our job is not to eliminate these thoughts and emotions completely, but to learn how to properly connect with and process them properly. Don’t beat yourself up for having these overwhelming thoughts & emotions, but focus your energy on connecting with, learning from, and then releasing them to prepare for better days ahead.
STEP #2 Release The Stress & Allow These Tough Thoughts & Emotions to Pass Through You
Whether you’re in the heat of a stressful moment or you’re processing a stressful day at the end of the day, take a moment to release these thoughts & emotions and recognize that you are not your feelings. It may even be helpful to repeat to yourself, “I am not my feelings.” This will enable you to calm down, de-stress, and give yourself the grace to know it’s okay to mess up at times - that’s simply a part of life.
STEP #3 Identify The Possible Triggers to Prepare For Better Days Ahead
We may not be able to control certain events from happening (like the dog getting into the garbage or our kids not listening), but we can work to identify what our most stressful triggers are for these hard days and overwhelming thoughts & emotions. While we cannot eliminate these triggers from our life (because that’s simply a part of life), we can learn from these triggers and be prepared to respond differently the next time. Ask yourself what some of the triggers were for these stressful thoughts & emotions through your day. Did you forget to eat breakfast? Did you not get enough sleep? Was there a stressful conversation you had with a loved one?
For me, its calling my children down for dinner that’s a big trigger for overwhelming thoughts & emotions. While I have 5 children at home (a 2,7,10,13, and 14 year old), it’s no easy task to get them all to the dinner table on time when the food is ready. However, recognizing this is one of my triggers, I am able to better prepare myself for this time of day and work to find new, innovative ways to handle this stressful situation and improve upon my response to this trigger by changing how I think about this situation in advance.
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REMEMBER: These tough feelings are not who you are, they are just moving through you and simply something you need to process, learn from, and allow yourself to prepare for better days ahead.
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xo, Lizzie
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